Practice being YOU

Staying as yourself in the closest relationships can be a challenge as there is a tendency to be emotionally manipulated or impacted by what they are experiencing. One can easily forget that this life is merely a drama and we are only enacting our pre designed roles in it. So, while the unreal characters jump, play, cry and laugh on a cinema screen, the screen remains as the unchanging witness to it all.

Many times our loved ones go through bouts of pain, anger and withdrawals and we jump in to help solve it all for them. It may also do very well to mind our own buisness and not flame their fires while their house is burning down. That is also compassion and understanding only. Stop believing compassion is only about sympathetic or self sacrifice and you will know that being inert is also being compassionate. Life is unfolding in the most apt ways for each one and you need to accept and flow with it rather than constantly striving to make it better as per your own opinions of it.

Staying in an inner solitude and detachment while giving ones best to what is in front of us and doing our dharma without drama and expectations is the way to work it all out. There are emotions and there always will be. But we need to consume whatever is served to us by our minds. We can choose to say no and sit on our throne of satiety like kings and queens.

Practise the zen in your close relationships.

Practice being you.